So many exciting things are happening for women.
We are in an era of self-empowerment like never before.
2018 is all about the women!!
Finding ourselves, finding our voice, finding our purpose.
All good, and long overdo.
But we are so busy working on our businesses and finding our inner strength and voice, what about pampering and spoiling ourselves a bit?
I still think that women don’t do enough for themselves.
Especially older women.
As I get older I realize the importance of putting myself first and that I matter!!
As women, we tend to care about the needs of others and forget about ourselves.
And if we are women that have experienced lose or depression from widowhood, divorce, or being an empty nester…we are even more prone to not do for ourselves, heck sometimes we don’t even want to get out of bed and shower, or eat, much less think about doing it with some style and luxury.
As a widow myself I too went through this.
Who cares? What do I have to get out of bed for? Who cares if I shower?
…and a bowl of Fruit Loops for dinner was pushing myself.
I’m a work in progress myself and trying to do, be and have better.
Trying to put myself first and show myself I MATTER!!!
Its hard-many times and I have to talk to my inner self and step out of my comfort zone a lot.
I also realize more now as I get older that so much ‘stuff’ doesn’t matter to me as it once did when I was younger and much more self-centered and vain, which I suppose you’re supposed to be a little when you are younger.
The truth is though…we all have way too much ‘stuff’!!!
If we took a moment to realize it isn’t how much ‘stuff’ we have but more so the quality of what we have that matters most.
Yes, budget matters, and I'm not talking getting into credit card debt.
Been there. Done that!
Many of us are working girls with rent to pay, and car insurance and monthly bills, we try to stretch our dollars each month. Me included.
And luxury and indulgence are different for everyone.
What it means to me might not mean the same to you.
But it is about what the French woman has known for decades..quality over quantity, buy what you can afford but splurge once awhile, and embrace, cherish, appreciate and value what you have, not just try to have 'more'!!
To me, it is more important to have two very luxurious, plush and expensive 5-star hotel bath towels, than to have five bath towels from Target.
Hey, I live by myself and when you get out of the shower you are clean anyway, so one great, thick, luxurious bath towel will last me the week while the other is in the wash…how many do I really need?
But every time I step out of the shower onto a thick, plush Turkish bath mat and wrap a big, thick luxurious bath sheet around me…it makes me feel like a movie star…and what’s wrong with that?
Or how about 2 sets of luxurious, good quality bed sheets.
You deserve to sleep the way Old Hollywood starlets did…not on 300 thread count darling!!
Be thoughtful about the clothes you wear.
Why wear something that you don’t truly love?
You must know what colors look the BEST on you.
Pay attention to what enhances your beauty and what detracts from it and get rid of the rest.
Every 10 years we should reevaluate our look.
Certainly what you wore in your 20s and 30s would not be appropriate in your 40’s and 50’s.
As we age we grow more sophisticated, our clothes should reflect this.
Think of how you want to present yourself to the world and buy ‘quality’ …whatever you can afford…over quantity.
Class and elegance darlings...even in casual wear.
And it's fabulous that you do treat yourself to an expensive handbag or designer shoes...Yay!! But then wear them and don't only bring them out for 'certain' occasions.
Dress up to honor yourself even if not a special occasion.
Looking presentable always is simply a matter of respect for yourself.
Celebrate your femininity!!
You don’t need to do it for anyone other than yourself.
Perhaps when you dress up you feel as though you are drawing attention to yourself.
You feel self-conscious as though people are judging you for dressing up during the day.
You don’t want to be noticed.
You want to just fly under the radar.
You don’t want to cause a stir.
I have felt ALL OF THE ABOVE!!!
So typical of how we as women are made to feel…and usually by ‘other’ women!!
What’s the point if I’m a widow or a divorcee?
No one around to see, right?
Embrace your femininity.
Don’t wear your granny panties and holy socks. Throw them away.
Wear a matching bra and panty set.
It doesn’t have to be a skimpy bikini style, but pretty and feminine.
Doesn’t matter if no one else sees them.
YOU WILL KNOW… and that is enough.
YOU ARE ENOUGH reason to wear pretty and nice things.
Wear your nice lingerie and spritz yourself with your favorite perfume…stop saving them for ‘special’ occasions. YOU are special enough.
My mother never wore her good perfume except only on a very special occasion.
Every morning when I get up I put on some pretty perfume even if I’m never leaving the house.
My mother would by nice designer bathrobes and slippers…and then not wear them, they would sit in her closet…waiting…waiting…. waiting FOR WHAT????
Sometimes the lessons we learn from our mothers are not just what our mothers did…but from what our mothers did not do.
Don’t make the same mistakes our past older generations made.
Add some Glamour and Luxury darling???
Practice the art of living well every day, even when you are alone.
Doing so allows you to develop a taste for fine living.
Beautiful surroundings make you want to rise to the occasion.
You can find lots of nice inexpensive things in Home Goods…my new obsession…but occasionally splurge on something extravigant, expensive and decadent, that you cant live without and makes you feel sooooo good!!
De-clutter and practice Minimalism.
Clear out and de-clutter your home and keep only the best and prettiest things you have.
Be surrounded only by the best you can afford and keep it clean and organized!!!
And throw away the ugly wire hangers and get all matching pretty hangers
….how many of you just had a quick picture of Joan Crawford in Mommy Dearest!!!.....yup…no wire hangers darlings!!!
Elevate mealtimes by using your best dishes, glasses, napkins and tablecloths.
Always use your best. You are special enough. It makes every day special and luxurious.
‘Saving the best for later.’…well darling, sometimes ‘later’ doesn’t come.
An ordinary cup of tea becomes a rich treat when you drink it in a pretty piece of china.
Use cloth instead of paper napkins at your meals.
Light a candle at dinner for instant ambiance.
Surround yourself with yummy smelling quality candles, and leave the cheap synthetic smells behind.
Frilly, feminine pillows...again, Home Goods...trust me, I know!!
A Snickers bar?? I dont think so, honey I'm eating decadent chocolates!!!
Two pieces of Godiva is better for your moral, mindset, and waistline!!
Drink your water out of a lovely wineglass...maybe splurge an make it 'crystal'!!
And exactly WHY are we saving the champagne for a ‘special’ occasion?
Who the hell is in charge of telling us what is and what isn’t a special occasion??
Are there champagne Gods that are frowning upon us if we drink some just ‘cause its Monday?? Hell no...Cheers darling!!!
One way to add instant luxury to any room is to bring in some fresh flowers in a beautiful vase
A single fresh flower in a vase by your bed
Can’t afford fresh? Go to Home Goods…they have very inexpensive faux flowers that look real.
Instead of 20 cheap pens all over the place in your drawer buy one exquisite pen that you love to write with in your journal.
And speaking of journals…a beautiful journal that you use that one pen to write in.
Invest in a real piece of artwork, sculpture, or painting that you absolutely love for your home or office.
Invest in yourself!!
Put yourself first!!
Treat yourself to these little luxuries.
Money aside, you owe it to yourself to be and look and feel the best you can be.
You will be amazed at how attractive and special they make you feel.
Oh, and one last thing darlings....wear the Pearls!!! ;)